How To Overcome Shyness For Good
Shyness is actually a natural response to unfamiliar events and situations; it is perfectly fine to feel shy the first time you meet someone or if you are asked to demonstrate something important to a person of authority.
Everyone experiences shyness and under normal circumstances, the shyness goes away on its own as the person becomes more familiar and comfortable with the situation that he is in. But what happens when a person is chronically shy? What happens when a person experiences shyness so much that it becomes the focal point of his/her life?
If you have experience with this type of shyness, then you know that it can be socially and emotionally crippling. The shyness just zaps the self-confidence out of you and you always feel anxious and trapped in social situations. We would love to give you a head-start in beating back your chronic shyness for good. Here are some great tips to get you started:
1. Shyness begins with the idea that people will not be interested in you, generally. Although that does happen, it never really hurt anyone to introduce themselves in social situations.
9 times out of 10, you will get a positive response if you take the initiative to introduce yourself. Letting others introduce you often places a gap between you and the other person, because you are not really interacting with him/her directly.
Instead of adding that unnecessary gap, go ahead and introduce yourself. If the other person doesn’t respond that well, find another person to interact with. That’s life – and this is what makes life exciting!
2. In social situations, we often feel the need to elevate ourselves just to be accepted. This is actually an extreme response because most of the time, people just want to hear something interesting about the person they are talking about.
If you do come across someone who brags about how much money he’s making in a year or how he’s really enjoying a new luxury he just bought, don’t try to qualify yourself by doing the same. Tone down your description of yourself and you will see that other people will appreciate your attitude. This will make socializing much easier and you will make new acquaintances that much faster with this technique.
3. People are usually preoccupied with their physical appearance when they go out to meet people. Yes, we live in a visual world and physical appearance does have value.
However, when we communicate with others with the intention of winning over someone for friendship or acceptance, people see not just your physical appearance but the outward projection of yourself. These are two very different things.
You have to understand that the way you carry yourself tends to be more relevant than what you are wearing or what your haircut is. If you look stunning in a dress but carry yourself as if you’ve nothing interesting to say, that’s the clear message that people will receive when you reach out to others to interact.
Keep that in mind the next time you visualize yourself talking to other people.